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It is said that there are five Love languages. And, we are all familiar with these languages. However, we tend to speak or prefer to use one from the other. See if you can identify your preferred Love Languages.

*Words of Affirmation. Kind words, praise, positive reception, acknowledgment, support, appreciation, and words of encouragement.

*Quality Time. This means togetherness and personal connection, really listening to each other, taking time to have fun together, doing things you each enjoy, and explore new activities together.

*Receiving Gifts. The message here is that the gift giver was thinking of you and wanted to let you know. Expense is not the main thing – it’s the meaning. A favorite treat picked up on the way home or a card for no reason sends a priceless message.

*Acts of Service. Cooking, washing the car, doing the laundry, taking the trash out, vacuuming the rooms, can all be acts of love. Doing something that is helpful to your loved one will be noticed, if it is their language of love.

*Physical Touch. A hug, a kiss, holding hands, sexual intercourse and intimacy are all ways of communicating love.

Now, do you know your primary love language? See if you can prioritize them one to five.

E.g. if you are a kind of person who is ready to help other people, Acts of service will be your primary language. If you would prefer to spend time together doing things, Quality of time might be your preference way of expressing love.

Now, do you know your partner’s primary love language? If you aren’t communicating your love in ways your partner understands, your relationship may suffer.

If your partner's primary love language is Quality of time, and you have been working sixteen hours to give her/him a beautiful home and a brand new car, you have missed the boat. Because he/she does not really understand this language, emotionally, he/she is not fulfilled. However, if you are spending fifteen minutes everyday by giving him/her undivided attention, you are a few in thousands.

His language Her language

1. Receiving gift 1. Acts of Service

2. Physical touch 2. Quality time

3. Quality time 3. Word of affirmation

4. Acts of Service 4. Physical touch

5. Word of affirmation 5. Receiving gift

Now, if he gives her a flower to express his love, since that is not her language of love, she will probably say just thank you. However, it will not fulfill her emotional tank.

Now, she makes him coffee to express her love, since that is not his primary language, it does not fulfill his emotional tank.

Now, he wonders why she doesn’t love him, and she wonders why he doesn’t love her. They both showing their love to one another, however, they are talking different language of love. Therefore, disaster is near.

Now that you identify his/her language of Love, start to speak through his/her language of love. Almost immediately, you will experience extraordinary vibe in your relationship. Off course, speaking languages you do not speak well will not be natural. However, now, love becomes a choice.

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