Monday, June 27, 2005
Relationship - How to light the fire and keep it burning…
How to light the fire and keep it burning…
Love begins with accepting another person just the way they are and just the way they are not. Looking at life from this angle empowers you and causes you to be in the matter. Any thing you are willing to accept brings you freedom. Any thing you are NOT willing to accept rubs your freedom.
Let us examine how we make people wrong. Every time we say “you are wrong” we are actually saying I am right and you are wrong. And the other person says the same thing back to you which is he/she is right and you are wrong. By the way who made us the judge of the other person’s behavior? Did we get a call from God that says when you say that they are wrong, I want you to know that, they are really wrong! I don’t think any body ever got such call. However, we live our life as if we are the judge and what we say is the ultimate command. Therefore, we find our selves glued to our way of being and expect others to be just the way we want them to be. Our expectation become I want to be loved this or that way, if you don’t do it this or that way then you don’t love me. Therefore, love dies.
Love begins with accepting the other person just the way they are and just the way they are not. Accepting does not mean agreeing nor disagreeing. It just lets the being be.
For this article to make sense, you will need a real relationship to work with. Think of any kind of relationship you would like to have a breakthrough right now. It could be a brother/sister, husband/wife, mother/father, friends or co-workers. Any relationship will do.
--First, let’s change “You are wrong” to “I do not accept that”
--Now, what is the impact of not accepting it just the way it is?
--Be present to the impact. If you are present to the impact, a new space will open up for you.
--Now ask your self… are you willing to accept what ever you were not willing to accept?
Now what ever your answer is, it is crystal clear you are the cause in the matter. You can choose to accept or not accept. You now know the freedom and impact of accepting or not accepting.
Any time you want to ignite the fire and keep it burning, see if you are willing to accept what you were not willing to accept. No body is stuck in a relationship you have a choice to keep it burning.
Love begins with accepting another person just the way they are and just the way they are not. Looking at life from this angle empowers you and causes you to be in the matter. Any thing you are willing to accept brings you freedom. Any thing you are NOT willing to accept rubs your freedom.
Let us examine how we make people wrong. Every time we say “you are wrong” we are actually saying I am right and you are wrong. And the other person says the same thing back to you which is he/she is right and you are wrong. By the way who made us the judge of the other person’s behavior? Did we get a call from God that says when you say that they are wrong, I want you to know that, they are really wrong! I don’t think any body ever got such call. However, we live our life as if we are the judge and what we say is the ultimate command. Therefore, we find our selves glued to our way of being and expect others to be just the way we want them to be. Our expectation become I want to be loved this or that way, if you don’t do it this or that way then you don’t love me. Therefore, love dies.
Love begins with accepting the other person just the way they are and just the way they are not. Accepting does not mean agreeing nor disagreeing. It just lets the being be.
For this article to make sense, you will need a real relationship to work with. Think of any kind of relationship you would like to have a breakthrough right now. It could be a brother/sister, husband/wife, mother/father, friends or co-workers. Any relationship will do.
--First, let’s change “You are wrong” to “I do not accept that”
--Now, what is the impact of not accepting it just the way it is?
--Be present to the impact. If you are present to the impact, a new space will open up for you.
--Now ask your self… are you willing to accept what ever you were not willing to accept?
Now what ever your answer is, it is crystal clear you are the cause in the matter. You can choose to accept or not accept. You now know the freedom and impact of accepting or not accepting.
Any time you want to ignite the fire and keep it burning, see if you are willing to accept what you were not willing to accept. No body is stuck in a relationship you have a choice to keep it burning.
