Inspiration

When you give up your

When your boundaries intact

boundaries in a relationship you

 in a relationship you

are unclear about your preferences

have clear preferences and act upon them

do not notice unhappiness

recognize when you are happy/unhappy

alter your behavior, plans, to fit the

acknowledge moods or opinions around

current moods of circumstances of

you while remaining centered

another

do more and more for less and less

do more when that gets results

take as truth the most recent opinion

trust your own intuition while

you have heard

being open to other's opinions

live hopefully while wishing and waiting

live optimistically while working on change

are satisfied if you are coping and surviving

are only satisfied if you are thriving

let the other's minimal improvement maintain

are encouraged by sincere ongoing

your stalemate

change for the better

have few hobbies because you have

have excited interest in self-enhancing

no attention span for self-directed activity

hobbies and projects

are manipulated by flattery

appreciate feedback but know the difference

try to create intimacy with a narcissist

relate only to partners giving mutual love

are so strongly affected by another

are strongly affected by your partner's

that obsession results

behavior and take it as information

will forsake every personal limit to

integrate sex so that you can enjoy it

get sex or the promise of it

but never at the cost of your integrity

see your partner  as causing your excitement

see your partner as stimulating excitement

feel hurt and victimized but not angry

when yourself feel angry say "ouch"

act out of compliance and compromise

act out of agreement and negotiation

do favors that you inwardly resist

only do favors you choose to do

disregard intuition in favor of wishes

honor intuition and distinguish from wishes

mostly feel afraid and confused

mostly feel secure and clear

are living a life that is not yours

are living a life that is close to what

you've wanted